You can't quite name it. But you can feel the gap —
between the life you are living and the one you sense is available.
You manage it most days. You keep going. And yet here you are, reading this, because something in you would not let it rest.
We know that feeling. We have stood in it. It does not go away by working harder, thinking smarter, or buying the next thing. It goes away when a man comes home to himself — in his body, in his power, in the company of other men doing the same.
Hearthkeepers is not a workshop, a course, or a productivity system. It is a gathering. We meet around the fire — figuratively, and often, literally. We are not warriors. We are not alphas. We are the men who tend the hearth.
OUR STORY
"I was numb for a long time, this work has shown me another way"
- Jarrod Harris
As a man I've discovered the power of stepping into my heart to embrace life fully. Deeply connected to the whenua, I channel my strength, compassion, and vision into creating opportunities where people can step away from the noise of the modern world and return to themselves through nature.
With a gift for capturing the soul of the ngahere through a lens, and a passion for preserving the stories and history of this land, I weave together practicality and purpose.
I bring a grounded wisdom and sacred masculine energy to the work of regeneration, guiding others to reconnect with wild places, and with their own true nature.
"Growing up I had no idea who I was as a man, or what it really meant."
- Dan Abdelnoor
I struggled with my feelings, with connecting, with being honest, with shame and harnessing anything like my full power.
Then as a husband and father I found the weight I was carrying had increased... I was just surviving, stumbling along, often lost and hoping nobody noticed.
Thirty plus years on I'm still learning. But I've also discovered more about myself, about love, and about how to use my full power for good. And almost none of it happened alone.
That's the whole point of Hearthkeepers. There is so much more within all of us, and so much more for all of us. We built this because we needed it. If you're reading this, you probably do too.
— Rory, Auckland NZ
I had never had a space where I felt comfortable letting down my walls and allowing myself to be truly seen. Hearthkeepers gave me that space. I have not just realised but truly felt that I am not alone.
Aaron, Auckland, NZ
I want to give a massive thanks to Dan for holding the men’s circle. They have had a huge impact on my life and mental health. And have opened up parts of me that I have wanted to work on for years. It’s a safe place to open up and be vulnerable. I really enjoy spending time with great men . I think so many men will benefit from hearthkeepers!
Lee, Auckland, NZ
The Hearthkeepers circle has and does provide me with a deep connection to a quite extraordinary group of men, who have open arms, minds, and hearts. It is a connection that in my previous 46 years, I had never ever experienced before. It has and continues to change my life in the most beautiful way, and I will be eternally grateful for the deep connection to all the brothers who are part of it.
The HEARTH Trilogy
Heart. Earth. Fire.
Three parts. One hearth. The floor a man stands on, the power he tends, the heart he opens
— and consciously guards.
HEART
Feel your heart open
Most men were taught that feeling too much is a liability. At Hearthkeepers, that wall comes down. Around the fire, the masks come off through trust, not force. Men speak what is actually true — and discover that the willingness to feel is the bravest thing a man can do. You learn to hold space for grief, for joy, for the ache of things unsaid. You stop performing strength and start living it. The brotherhood becomes a place where vulnerability is not weakness — it is the very foundation of real connection. You leave knowing that your heart is not a burden to manage, but a compass to follow.
What changes
Your partner feels you differently. Your children see a man who is present, not managed. The isolation lifts. You find yourself listening more deeply, responding instead of reacting. The walls you built to protect yourself begin to dissolve, and in their place, real intimacy grows. You become the kind of man who can hold another's pain without needing to fix it.
EARTH
Return to your body
Most men are living from the neck up — thinking, planning, managing, but rarely arriving. We slow down deliberately. We walk, breathe, put our feet on the ground. Through breathwork and time in nature, the signals your body has been sending for years begin to land. You learn to notice the tension in your shoulders before it becomes rage. You feel the ground beneath your feet and remember that you belong here, on this earth, in this body. The endless noise of productivity and performance falls away, and what remains is something quieter, steadier, truer. You come home to yourself.
What changes
You stop running on adrenaline and habit. You're calmer in situations that used to hijack you — more present at home, less reactive. Sleep comes easier. Your body stops feeling like an enemy and starts feeling like an ally. You make decisions from a place of grounded clarity rather than anxious urgency. The people around you notice the difference before you do.
FIRE
Rediscover your power
Hearthkeepers is about making space for ceremony, for honest truth-telling, for laughter, for good food and time by the fire. Together you name what you've been hiding from and rediscover the peaceful power within. Grounded. Earned. Yours. You learn that power is not dominance or control — it is the quiet certainty of a man who knows who he is. Around the fire, you practice speaking your truth without apology and listening without defense. The fire becomes a mirror, reflecting back the parts of yourself you have kept hidden, and in that reflection, you find not shame, but strength. You carry that warmth back into the world.
What changes
The unnamed fear that has been running things quietly loses its grip. You stop shrinking. Decisions come from a different place. You speak up when you would have stayed silent. You set boundaries with ease rather than guilt. The fire you tend within yourself becomes a light that others are drawn to, and you find yourself leading not by force, but by presence.
Family is our greatest teacher
My wife and I met almost twenty eight years ago on a dance floor in the UK. Now we find ourselves with two teenagers and a lot of water under the bridge — much of it spent hanging on by our fingertips to keep things together! Now it's time to share some of the gold we've discovered... Learning to speak my truth and stay in the room when I'd rather leave, understanding what it truly meant to be present and learning how to resolve conflict and fill my own cup. I'm not fully sorted... I'm simply on the journey. Loving life and ready to discover more! - Dan
I've been married more than twenty years, and we've got a son and a daughter who are both almost past the age of thinking I know everything. Family is where I do most of my actual learning. Out in the ngahere I know what I'm doing; at home I get it wrong regularly, apologise, and try again the next day. Some of my best moments have been ordinary ones — a walk with my boy where neither of us said much, my daughter demonstrating huge emotions that I must sit with and hold, support. These things take years to build and I learn something every day. Whatever I bring to this work, I've mostly practised it first on the people who live with me. - Jarrod
WE ONLY GET
ONE LIFE
If you've read this far, something in you already knows. You didn't land on this page by accident.
You will not be judged here. You will not be pushed. You will simply be met — by men who are on the same journey. We are not here to fix you. You are not broken.
The fire is lit. The circle is forming. And there is a place in it that is yours.
Come to the fire. We've got you.